I am active on the web, so I see a lot of opinions floating around out there. There is a huge one that irks me – that is when I see any reference of having sons as a “Scary” or “Bad” thing. Moms seem to think they are too energetic … or even “dirty”. These potential (or already) parents want the girl to dress up, brush hair, do make-up… Somehow it’s become okay to make fun of sons and boys in the process.
But really, that’s the reason for making a new life? To have a breathing doll?
So I am here to set the record straight. As a mom of two boys, I would not exchange them or want something in a tutu in their place. I am not saying I would not have loved a daughter, but my little eggs and my husband’s sperms created the “XY” twice.
You know all of those guys daughters are going to date? Yah, I have those two of them. And I am planning on doing a great job of raising two intelligent, gorgeous inside-and-out boys that will treat them with respect. But if you have preconceived notions that boys are bad – you are doing no one any favor. Of course those daughters are going to bring the “bad boy” home – what else it out there.
You know what boys like to do? Imagine, read, color, play outside … yah and they do a lot of climbing too. But my experience is that lots of little kids – girls and boys – climb. The boys play with action figures, they kiss mommy, they help me in the kitchen, they stomp around in my shoes and my husband’s. They try to swim…in the bathtub, they do gymnastics … at library time, they listen … as well as an preschoolers will. And they make me LAUGH.
Are there some obviously more “boyish” things they do? Yes, they will never tell me they want a pink pettiskirt, instead they charge around proclaiming they are Jedis and any stick can be their light saber. And they don’t want me to braid their hair, instead they tell me I am a Mommy Monster so I chase them.
Really, where is the bad part? Hard to potty train – anyone who knows me in person or has read my blog knows the boys were potty trained before turning 2. Not verbal? My Mom’s Club friend says it’s a blessing, compared to her girls. And honestly, it’s a personality thing – my oldest is quiet – my youngest not so much?
Dirty? No, they get baths multiple times a day. Yes, they do get DIRT ON THEM when they play in the backyard. And they have a knack for being covered in marker when coloring – but they are not ICKY or DIRTY, words I’ve seen used to describe boys.
And finally, do you think on some level your sons might realize that you would have preferred a girl if you keep obsessing about it? Not healthy for anyone, especially since it is out of your hands! It’s all up to the fastest sperm!
So there is my rant. Boys are gorgeous, awesome, fun. Don’t cry about pettiskirts, because there is more to a child than the outfits they wear.