We Miss You, Mama!

Mama

Something happened the other day to my family that really didn’t effect you –  my readers. You may have gotten my out-of-office on e-mail or seen that I was slower to end contests.

My grandmother, Mama,  passed away at 81 from a stroke. She was a HUGE part of my family. She lived with my folks. And they live 5 minutes away from me. She took care of my oldest from when he was 3 months old until 19 months, while I worked full time. She was like a second mom to him those days. Funny enough, she also watched me when I was younger, when my sister was in school and my mom worked.

I talked to her the morning she passed away. She was cooking in the kitchen – as always. She told me how she knew Keegan, my oldest, would be a singer or dancer and make LOTS of money. And we talked about family gossip, my upcoming garage sale, how happy she was that she lost some weight. It was a normal Sunday morning. The boys played in the backyard, my sister and her family came over, my mom came home from work. We all saw and talked to Mama. Then she went out to garden.

From there the story is confusing, for me. My sister and her family started packing to leave. My husband and my other son were putting away the backyard toys. My oldest was with my mom. I was watching TV. Then my mom comes running into the house to dial 911. Somehow my oldest, my singer/dancer, Keegan found Mama passed out in the garden. Ambulances and firetrucks came, she was sent to the hospital, she underwent surgery to reduce the swelling caused by the stroke, but in the end there was nothing they could do but keep her body alive on machines. Mama was no longer there.

Til We Meet Again

So mid-week the decision was to take her off the ventilation system and her family stood with her and talked to her those final moments. We celebrated her life and memory just 6 days later. It seemed like forever, yet too quick at the same time.

Everyone had a different bond with her, of course. Her husband, my Papa, will miss her tremendously after 60 years of marriage. For me, our bond was over baking, sewing and the boys. She taught me the basic patterns for knitting, sewing and crocheting, although I never had her skill. My sister and her were more the “family news’ people and cooking. And I am pretty sure my husband is going to miss all the times she lovingly hit him – she just couldn’t resist as he always did something that was to rile her up in good fun. But one thing remains the same with all of her friends and family – she was loved.

All of her children, grandchildren and great grandchildren will have different memories and together we will have fabulous stories to help keep her memory alive. I’ll miss her tremendously these next few months and I’ll remember her forever.

I love you, Mama!

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Comments

  1. I am soooo sorry for your loss. Sounds like she was a great woman and will be truly missed.

  2. I’m very sorry for you loss, Erin. So unexpected that must make it so hard. She sounds like an amazing woman. ((hugs))

  3. I’m so sorry for your loss, Erin. Thank you for sharing a little bit about her with us. Your family is in my thoughts.

  4. Erin I’m so sorry you lost someone you love. My thoughts are with you during this hard time.

    Lee

  5. I am very sorry for your loss. She sure sounds like she was a great lady.

  6. So sorry for your loss 🙁 You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers!

  7. I’m so sorry Erin. She sounds like she was a wonderful lady.

    I lost my grandmother when I was just 8 years old and I still miss her.

  8. Erin,
    I’m so sorry for your loss. It is so wonderful that you and your children had such a beautiful relationship with her and have such fabulous memories of her.
    Know that my heart is with you.

  9. I am so very sorry for your loss. Losing my grandma 8 years ago was the hardest thing I have been through. Big hugs.

  10. So sorry for your loss.

  11. I’m sorry for your lost…prayers to you and yours.

  12. I am so sory for you loss. She sounds like a lovely woman who touched so many lives and will be missed. Your family will be in my prayers.

  13. You have my sympathy. She was fortunate to have a great family to love her and you were fortunate to have her. I know you will all miss her.

  14. Erin, I’m so sorry to learn of your loss. It sounds like your family is very close and that she will be missed tremendously.

  15. I’m so sorry for your loss, and everyone in your family. She sounds like an amazing woman. Hugs.

  16. Lauralee Hensley says:

    I am truly sorry for your lose. It’s so hard when it comes so unexpectedly. I at least had my Dad for five years after Doctor’s gave him less than 6 months to live. I had my mom for about a year after her first major stroke, though she’d had numerous small ones before that.
    I’m glad she lived with your parents because that meant she had family close by to enjoy being a part of a family with on a daily basis. With you living so near, you got to enjoy being with her often too.
    I hope the beautiful memories you all have of her will bring you and your loved ones some measure of comfort during this very sad time.
    God Bless you all.

  17. ((hugs)) I’m so sorry for your loss. This was how it was with my grandma who lost her battle with Lung Cancer 2 and a half years ago. She was the glue/heart of our family and it’s something we’re still trying to deal with though not very well.

  18. I’m so sorry, my heart is breaking for you. My grandma was such an important part of my life. She died when I was only 28 and my boys were only 1 and 3 so they never really got to know her. Hold on to all those wonderful memories!

  19. Sounds like your family lost a great woman. I’m so sorry for your loss.

  20. What a wonderful post Erin! It sounds like your grandmother led a long and fulfilling life. Thank you for sharing your memories of her with us.

  21. I’m so sorry for your loss. Your grandmother sounds like a fabulous woman. ((HUGS))

  22. I am so sorry, Erin!

  23. xoxo

  24. I al so sorry for your loss and looks like heaven just got another angel
    {{{{{HUGS}}}}}

  25. Lyndsey R. says:

    I am sorry to hear of your loss. Tamara is right, they do become angels, your angel!

  26. I am sorry for your loss. Sounds like a truly amazing woman! A-mazing! She also sounds like she will be remembered and was truly loved by all! I hope you and your family are staying close and doing well to get through. ((HUGS))

  27. JoeyfromSC says:

    I’m so sorry to hear of the loss of your Grandmother:(

  28. Thank you for sharing and my deepest sympathy goes out to you and your family. I have a “mama” too and I can’t imagine my life without her here.

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