#LoveThighself – Be Your Own Valentine!


When my boys wake up  in the morning, the first thing I tell them is, “Good Morning, Handsome!”

When I wake up in the morning, the first thing I do is look in the mirror and pat my belly – hoping for it to be flatter and more toned.

When I am getting the boys ready for the day, I ruffle their hair. I tell them how much I love their chocolate brown or sun-streaked hair … depending on whether it is summer or winter!

When I am brushing my hair, I count the strands on the brush. And if my husband is home I ask, “Am I going bald? Am I losing too much hair? Is this a bald spot?

When I sit across from my husband or my boys, I look in their eyes. I tell my husband he has such pretty gray eyes. My oldest has the prettiest hazel eyes. My youngest has beautiful, big brown eyes.

Yet, when I look in the mirror at my own eyes, I see the wrinkles around them from too many smiles and too much sun.

And then one day, when complaining to my husband about my “fat” thighs and small breasts I realized – Damn, I am HARD on myself. I love my husband and my boys so much. I don’t hold back compliments – they come pouring out of my mouth for them. I can give them a heart-felt compliment on almost anything and really mean it with all my heart. But it sure didn’t seem like I like myself much. And if I don’t like me, how can I expect my husband to like me. Here I am, just pointing out all my faults. Faults he didn’t even see – but if I keep talking about them, he might realize that my pores are too big and my feet do look like a vampire’s. (Yes, that’s a real complaint from me) Or maybe he will just realize that I am very very very insecure and I don’t love myself the way he does.

Either way, I decided that for the month of February I was going to be my own Valentine. I was going to remind myself every day how much I love me and how awesome I really am. I AM NOT GOING TO INSULT MYSELF ALL MONTH LONG. And I will compliment myself daily. And I know I am not alone in this. I am sure other women feel the same when they look in the mirror. Loving others but barely loving their reflection. So I am inviting all y’all to Love Thighself too.


I mentioned this awesome idea to Denise of RUNDMT and she was all about it – she came up with the awesome name! (THANK YOU, CLEVER GIRL!) And she is going to be doing weekly posts too! And this is how everyone can play along in the month of February and be your own Valentine.

IDEA 1: Every day try to share something POSITIVE about yourself. Try to come up with something different every day – 28 compliments! Amazing, right? And share these positive thoughts however you are comfortable.

  • Tweet: I Love Myself Because ... @theMomBuzz @DeniseRMT #LoveThighselfon your Twitter why you rock (Tag @theMomBuzz and @RunDMT and use #LoveThighself)
  • On Instagram share a picture of your beautiful self and/or accomplishments (Tag @speak2erin and @run_DMT and use #LoveThighself)
  • On Facebook share a picture or why you are amazing! (yours or my page – Tag @theMomBuzz and @RunDMT and use #LoveThighself). You can also join our LoveThighself Event on Facebook!
  • On Tumblr share a picture of your beautiful self and/or accomplishments(Tag @theMomBuzz and use #LoveThighself)
  • Heck, make a Pinterest Board about loving yourself! Pin an accomplishment, a picture, whatever! (Use #LoveThighself)
  • You can even leave a simple comment below telling how you love yourself for the day
  • And you can also do a big ol’ squishy blog post about how awesome you are! (If you do, please link to theMomBuzz and RunDMT so others can be inspired too!)

IDEA 2: Support each other. I am inviting everyone to leave their linkies below of whatever/however their shared their #LOVETHIGHSELF. Feel free to visit eachother and leave likes, hearts, and positive comments! So BOOKMARK or PIN THIS PAGE.

CONTEST: Because we are celebrating for the month of February and I am inviting everyone to be their own Valentine – I HAVE to do a little give-away. I rock like that. So for every daily #LoveThighself you complete, you get an entry to win a $50 Hallmark gift card. The winner is going to be chosen randomly from either the comments or the linkies. So if you visit someone to give them kind words or likes, please leave a little comment below so we know. Also, if you joined our Love Thighself Facebook Event, that can count as an entry too. So leave your Facebook Name below and let me know you joined! And anything NICE about yourself you post there will count as an entry.

And be on the lookout for more posts for inspiration @theMomBuzz. We’ll do daily tweets, Facebook posts and posts on Thursdays throughout February!

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  1. I am thrilled to be part of this challenge (initiative) with you! We (women) are our own worst critics. It needs to STOP! Our husbands, boyfriends, girlfriends, partners do not want to hear any more about our pooches or flab. We are all beautiful! ACCEPT IT! It’s you.

    Thank you for calling me clever. Of course, I told read it a Doctor Who Clara kind of sense of the expression. 😉

    • Haha! Every time I type it I think of Clara Oswin Oswald. I used to always think of Harding and the Velociraptors at Jurrasic Park. Now it’s mixed together. Don’t you just want to run away with The Doctor to see Dinosaurs. Now that would be so cool. And you are so good at running! Perfect companion material!

      I just hope I help at least one person find that it’s okay to love themselves.


      Erin T.

  2. I read your blog and the Run DMT blog and both really touched my heart. I admire how one of you has accepted all her bodily changes through the years and how the other has struggled with acceptance. I am tired of fighting with my body. Last year, at age 50, I was in the best shape of my life, after losing 60 pounds and running my first half marathon. One year later I’m in the worst shape of my life, after a knee injury and a pinched nerve in my neck. Plus, my chronically ill child is such a stressor in my life. I have eaten my way back to where I started and cannot run until I lose the weight, because it’s too hard on my knees. And running was how I a) burned calories, b) dealt with stress and c) suppressed my appetite. I’m a mess. And when I look in the mirror, all I want to do is cry. So I’m in. I’m going to try to force myself to find something I like about me. This may be the hardest challenge of my life, but it couldn’t come at a better time!

    • Parri – Thank you SO MUCH for sharing. This is a challenge. It’s heartbreaking. It shouldn’t be a challenge. There are other things out there that we can really push ourselves at and feel accomplished. But here we are just fighting to love ourselves? Isn’t that crazy. I really was blown away when it dawned on me. Hence, sharing my thoughts with others and hoping we can all practice being kind to ourselves this month and make it a habit for the months to come.

      Share often and daily! We’ll be looking for your posts!

      Erin T., theMomBuzz

  3. I read your post and I thought a lot of things. 1. You sounded so real. A lot of blogs I read are just people writing what people want to hear, or what is interesting at the moment. You sounded real. A real woman, with real life issues, thoughts, and solutions. (And your vampire feet complaint made me laugh) 2. You hit home with this post. I tend to over compliment, but I’m super hard on myself. 3. It was an eye opener. We really do need to be less critical of ourselves. I’m looking forward to taking part of this challenge to see if I can actually fight the urge to criticize myself, and instead give compliments to myself. I think EVERYONE should take part in this and I’m going to share your blog post now.

    • Awww, Jackie, Thank you. TheMomBuzz is definitely a mix of all sorts of things. When I talk fitness and … well me … it’s definitely real. I do try to be light and happy – but this is just me. And then I realized maybe it wasn’t just me – and if more women felt this way we have to stop it. We beat up ourselves too much. Starting tomorrow it’s all gonna be a fun, happy love fest!

      Be sure to keep track on Facebook too – the event we are doing – we will be posting there to keep up the positive self thinking! https://www.facebook.com/events/205067813023258/


      Erin T.

  4. This is a great idea! Thanks for hosting this challenge.

  5. This post really makes me think twice about how I view myself. I guess one positive aspect about me is that I want to help others through my career as a physical therapist.

  6. Jessica B. says:

    I love myself for being a good mommy to my two boys. I spend my whole day meeting their needs and nurturing them. It isn’t an easy job, so I need to get myself more praise.

  7. Melinda Garlick says:

    Loving yourself first and having confidence in yourself will help you be a better mom. Thanks for this reminder!

  8. Jessica B. says:

    I love that I didn’t cry when my son got his shots today :-). He was a big boy and took it like a pro.

  9. Jessica B. says:

    I love myself for cooking a yummy dinner for my family today. 🙂

  10. Kyl Neusch says:

    Being the best I can to others

  11. Jessica B. says:

    I love myself by giving myself time to call my best friend.

  12. Jessica B. says:

    I love myself for taking the time to read a few chapters in a book for me (not a kid book).

  13. Jessica B. says:

    I made dinner for my parents tonight.

  14. Jessica B. says:

    Today I just love being able to snuggle my family. I’m so blessed!

  15. Jessica B. says:

    I love myself by working out when I am able to. It is a great stress relief.

  16. Heather Amos says:

    I feel that I am complimented every day, each time I look at my daughter. Haha, does that sound vain at all? It’s not meant to be, really 😛 What I am trying to say is that I see my daughter and I know I’ve done everything that I can to guide her, teach her, inspire her…She’s an amazing child so I know I must be doing something right!

  17. Susan Smith says:

    I love that I didn’t have ice cream after dinner last night.

  18. I love myself by enjoying what I accomplish each day and not hating myself for what I don’t get done!

  19. gave someone space in line, when asked to, said thank you when served and listened to two elderly peoples troubles

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